Jacob Santos

1. Don’t Date a Person who is Married

Yes, I want some guy whose wife I violated to viciously kill me. I don’t, which is why I always follow this rule. Basically she or he wants someone new without leaving their current partner. Seems really dishonest, and risky. Really, you are not so much dating as sleeping together. As much violence you see, it is usually because the partner comes home and finds someone unexpected in their bed.

I like the joke from Larry the Cable Guy, “Guns don’t kill people, Husbands that come home early do.”

Perhaps the grass is greener on the other side of the fence, but the decision to be with someone is very important and shouldn’t be violated only to have a good time.

Really, this rule applies to anyone who is not single.

2. Don’t Date a Person who is Separated

From what I’ve read, usually the person goes back to their spouse. My thoughts, or theory, is that 1) they’ll find someone who validates the person they were with, “Damn, my husband is a complete idiot, but this fool is even worse!” or 2) they just want to see just how green the other side of the fence is and if it is worth leaving the person completely. It is interesting, but the person is still married and that does technically fall into the 1st rule.

If the couple has kids the probability that they will say together, seems to me to increase, if their kids are young. They’ll both respect that they should stay together for the kids. Another reason is that if they really were going to leave each other, they would have already did so. They are just taking a break from each other to collect their thoughts and see where they want their life to head. At this point of time, I don’t see myself as someone who would woo a separated married woman away from her man. Do you?

“So wife, how many people did you sleep with while we were separated?” says the husband.
“Hundreds. How many did you sleep with?” replies the wife.
“Ha ha, Hundreds too. I even had sex with your ex!” replies the husband.
“Ha ha, no that was me, we switched places after you got there.” laughs the wife.

3. Shouldn’t date co-workers

What happens when you break it off?

If everyone doesn’t, they will once you screw it up. I think that I’ll most likely screw it up and would rather not have to deal with both an angry ex-girlfriend and very angry co-workers who love the angry ex-girlfriend/co-worker and hates the guts of the (soon to be ex) co-worker who screwed up the relationship.

Dating Policies

If it is the policy of the company that co-workers can not date, period or only can’t date in some department and can’t date bosses or subordinates. I don’t think dating should be so risky that you can lose your job, if caught. Dating is stressful enough, without having the possibility of being fired.

Exceptions?

I think of any of these rules, I would like to break this one the most. Why? Plenty of possibilities to get to know the person. Plenty of opportunity to ask the person out. Plenty of opportunity for the person to get to know you.

So it is more weighting the above risks with the reward of finding someone really awesome. On that, if I knew that I wouldn’t completely screw the relationship up, I would most definitely break this rule, but I need to make sure that I keep the relationship going and not be a total asshole.

4. Don’t do one night Stands

With all of the STDs, boyfriends, and husbands, it seems a little bit too risky. Why risk having to worry about having to be checked up for AIDs and if you didn’t wear protection, if you’ll have a surprise showing up in 9 months.

Not worth it or at least not if you think about the above.

I’ll rather get to know the person first and if all goes well, I think we’ll be much happier with the decision. Provided I didn’t screw it up first, but I’m working on that.

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