Comments on: Women http://jacobsantos.com/2009/general/women/ Rumblings, rants, essays, stories by Jacob Santos about Web Site Development, Persistent Browser-Based Games, personal journal, and Programming. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 15:54:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3-aortic-dissection By: Jacob Santos http://jacobsantos.com/2009/general/women/comment-page-1/#comment-34642 Jacob Santos Fri, 24 Apr 2009 10:51:09 +0000 http://www.santosj.name/?p=995#comment-34642 Well said Tony. I'm going to keep your comment as a counter to the craziness that is in the post. The problem is a matter of perspective and biology. As animals, females usually want a stronger mate in order to guarantee (as close as possible) survival. If the mate is weak, then the perception is that the children are going to be weak. Of course as humans, we also have thoughts, feelings, sociology, and other factors. Usually, I've found that wooing a woman isn't as complicated as "the movies." Women may say they want that, but they lack respect for those who do. The insanity is that those who do not learn from their mistakes tend to become stalkers and that is unacceptable. Neither as legal, social, nor in terms of starting a healthy relationship. Confidence does matter more than what a person looks like. It is part of the reason an "ugly" man can be with an attractive woman. He had the confidence to ask her out (or he might of kidnapped her and kept her in the basement for a decade, who knows). I have some ways to go, I feel that there are certain environments for which to ask a person you don't know out, but really I'm starting to believe that asking someone out at the supermarket is fine. Just that when I start to I either can't get anything to come out or I stutter completely and give up. Thing is, is that confidence is key, and I don't quite have it. Eventually, I'm still working on it. Well said Tony. I’m going to keep your comment as a counter to the craziness that is in the post.

The problem is a matter of perspective and biology. As animals, females usually want a stronger mate in order to guarantee (as close as possible) survival. If the mate is weak, then the perception is that the children are going to be weak.

Of course as humans, we also have thoughts, feelings, sociology, and other factors. Usually, I’ve found that wooing a woman isn’t as complicated as “the movies.” Women may say they want that, but they lack respect for those who do.

The insanity is that those who do not learn from their mistakes tend to become stalkers and that is unacceptable. Neither as legal, social, nor in terms of starting a healthy relationship.

Confidence does matter more than what a person looks like. It is part of the reason an “ugly” man can be with an attractive woman. He had the confidence to ask her out (or he might of kidnapped her and kept her in the basement for a decade, who knows). I have some ways to go, I feel that there are certain environments for which to ask a person you don’t know out, but really I’m starting to believe that asking someone out at the supermarket is fine. Just that when I start to I either can’t get anything to come out or I stutter completely and give up.

Thing is, is that confidence is key, and I don’t quite have it. Eventually, I’m still working on it.

]]> By: Tony http://jacobsantos.com/2009/general/women/comment-page-1/#comment-34605 Tony Thu, 23 Apr 2009 16:21:51 +0000 http://www.santosj.name/?p=995#comment-34605 The ability to control and manipulate is borne at the conception of desire. When a man wants a woman, especially an unknown woman, she is put on high as a moment where tribute can be paid ... this is more commonly known as "love" or "lust at first sight." Women are neither monuments nor objects, but fellow human beings with an interior world of their own -- they cannot or will not respect a man who would give them worship or tribute so easily, rather she is more likely to respect a man who is polite and confident enough in himself to stand up for what he believes in -- even in the face of her childish and sexual feminine wiles. Time will eventually have its way ... even with the most beautiful and desirable of women. The ability to control and manipulate is borne at the conception of desire. When a man wants a woman, especially an unknown woman, she is put on high as a moment where tribute can be paid … this is more commonly known as “love” or “lust at first sight.” Women are neither monuments nor objects, but fellow human beings with an interior world of their own — they cannot or will not respect a man who would give them worship or tribute so easily, rather she is more likely to respect a man who is polite and confident enough in himself to stand up for what he believes in — even in the face of her childish and sexual feminine wiles.

Time will eventually have its way … even with the most beautiful and desirable of women.

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